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Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Momma said don't handicap your children by making their lives easy...

So, I have been thinking about this quote alot lately. As parents, it seems like our number one goal with our children is to make their lives as easy as possible. We hope that they will not encounter the sames pains as we have. We try our best to keep them in a bubble, safe and protected from all the ugly forces in this life. But, I wonder if this is right? I wonder if we are in fact teaching them the lessons they need to be taught in order to make it in this world. Because, the truth is, this life IS hard, this life IS filled with hate and hurt and pain and tears. How are our children supposed to learn how to face these demons head on if they have had absolutely no experience with them before? How are they to stand and fight when all their lives we have been the ones fighting for them?

Maybe the key to parenting is not taking away our children's pain... maybe it is teaching them how to properly embrace each pain and recover from the hurts that we encounter. Teaching our Daughters how to break down in private and never let another see her falter. Teaching our Son's how to stand up and be a man, even when the act does not seem characteristic of  a "man". We don't want to teach our children the cowardice ways of a bail out! We want to teach them to be brave and be strong and to fight for their happiness and peace of mind. We want them to shoot for the stars, chase every dream and BELIEVE in themselves. Us believing in them will only get them so far in this life... we, as parents must give them the tools they need in order to have that same faith in themselves. Throwing them to the wolves, you may say... but when we have equipped them with the armor they need for protection, we will have confidence that they will come out of the situation on top. Stand and conquer will be their battle cry, a pat on the back from us and the feeling of self preservation will be their greatest reward.

"If you want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders."  ~Abigail Van Buren



  1. Well said, darling. I couldn't agree more. I'm growing more and more impressed with your wisdom each day.